Communication, the Kiss, and the Embrace

Both men and women when married are often involved in an irritating situation. It is such common for human in any rate to have differences. It is very common for us to argue. The question is how we manage conflict within our selves. It is because the moment we decide to get married, in that very moment we should able to except our mate as the way he/she is. The key of these kinds of situation is a good communication.

Men are usually had difficulty in saying what they wanted to say and always prefer to say or take words literally. In the other hand, women are usually demanding to be understood without saying too many words. In one way or another, one must understand this matter in order to be able to improve one self and build a better communication. Each human are created uniquely, and each human are always different. Thus, it is depending in how we are and how our mate is. Every each of us had our own ways to communicate. The problem is just how we improve it, and makes our communication skill better and how willing we are to build a good and healthy communication, a communication that base on truth and trust of one and another. This kind of attitude will make a good relationship that based on love and care.

Relationships that cause fear, hate, sorrow, or sour feeling are not a healthy relationship. One that experiences these kinds of feelings in having a relationship should question again the righteousness of the relationship one’s having at the moment. Even though one feels some love, love alone is not a reason to hurt or intimidate other and to love is not to over power others, but to be equal.

Divorce in Islam is a solution of an unsolved bad relationship. Despite this fact, divorce it self is not encouraged in Islam. It is the last resource, when good communication is yet impossible to neither build nor maintain. There are very strict rules in Islamic law that governs this kind of matter. It is also said that God despise it, although He permits it amongst humans.

Then, when a relationship is based upon love, there is nothing better to express love than kiss and embrace. Good kiss and embrace is also a bridge for a better deeper love and great sex.

Men and women are indeed equal and Islam emphasizes this. In Islam women and men are equal, but had different purpose of their existence. Women’s body are created in such way that it would gives men warmth and such a deep feeling of being loved when hugged by women they loved. Women body are created in such way that it reflects a function and her purpose to love, care, guide, and give peace in one’s heart. Men’s body in the other hand, are created in such way that emphasize it purpose to protect and give safety to one they love.

So when a man and women hugs each other, there is a mutual feeling that felt differently in each. Same way in sex, when a man hugs his woman with such passion and deep feeling while thrusting his penis deep inside her vagina, he is pushing his body (especially his penis) to its limits to express his love. This way, both parties will feel even deeper love, and greater sex. Thus the pleasure in having sex it self will multiply and orgasm (that usually hard to reach for women) will be easier to attain, yet greater to experience. Thus in Islam sex is supposed to be sacred and have such spiritual value.