Both men and women when married are often involved in an irritating situation. It is such common for human in any rate to have differences. It is very common for us to argue. The question is how we manage conflict within our selves. It is because the moment we decide to get married, in that very moment we should able to except our mate as the way he/she is. The key of these kinds of situation is a good communication.
Men are usually had difficulty in saying what they wanted to say and always prefer to say or take words literally. In the other hand, women are usually demanding to be understood without saying too many words. In one way or another, one must understand this matter in order to be able to improve one self and build a better communication. Each human are created uniquely, and each human are always different. Thus, it is depending in how we are and how our mate is. Every each of us had our own ways to communicate. The problem is just how we improve it, and makes our communication skill better and how willing we are to build a good and healthy communication, a communication that base on truth and trust of one and another. This kind of attitude will make a good relationship that based on love and care.
Relationships that cause fear, hate, sorrow, or sour feeling are not a healthy relationship. One that experiences these kinds of feelings in having a relationship should question again the righteousness of the relationship one’s having at the moment. Even though one feels some love, love alone is not a reason to hurt or intimidate other and to love is not to over power others, but to be equal.
Divorce in Islam is a solution of an unsolved bad relationship. Despite this fact, divorce it self is not encouraged in Islam. It is the last resource, when good communication is yet impossible to neither build nor maintain. There are very strict rules in Islamic law that governs this kind of matter. It is also said that God despise it, although He permits it amongst humans.
Then, when a relationship is based upon love, there is nothing better to express love than kiss and embrace. Good kiss and embrace is also a bridge for a better deeper love and great sex.
Men and women are indeed equal and Islam emphasizes this. In Islam women and men are equal, but had different purpose of their existence. Women’s body are created in such way that it would gives men warmth and such a deep feeling of being loved when hugged by women they loved. Women body are created in such way that it reflects a function and her purpose to love, care, guide, and give peace in one’s heart. Men’s body in the other hand, are created in such way that emphasize it purpose to protect and give safety to one they love.
So when a man and women hugs each other, there is a mutual feeling that felt differently in each. Same way in sex, when a man hugs his woman with such passion and deep feeling while thrusting his penis deep inside her vagina, he is pushing his body (especially his penis) to its limits to express his love. This way, both parties will feel even deeper love, and greater sex. Thus the pleasure in having sex it self will multiply and orgasm (that usually hard to reach for women) will be easier to attain, yet greater to experience. Thus in Islam sex is supposed to be sacred and have such spiritual value.
Monday, February 15, 2010
Saturday, February 13, 2010
The Psychology of Cat
The popular drinks in the world are coffee and tea, and the most popular pets are cats. Different with dogs who considers humans as master, cats considers humans as friends. That’s why dogs are very obedient while cats are pretty much does everything as they please. Dogs are very easy to train because basically they are more stupid than cats and naturally very obedient. Cats follow order from their human out of their own considerations while dogs out of their blind obedient. That’s why cats are sometimes breaking the rules that had become a consensus between them and their human when they feel bored.
Compare to the size of the body, cats has a bigger brain then dogs. And the easiest way to proof that cat is smarter than dog is by their looks. Dog are always have a stupid looks and cat are always had a smarter expression. Besides that, only dogs chase their own tails.
Cats are naturally clean and love to be clean. They gradually cleans their fur with their tongue, and burry their shits after they poops.
Cat can understand their human’s feeling due to their intelligent and the way they see us as friend. When we are feeling sad, they will looks sad and even try to cheers their humans by rubbing their body, sit in our lap with such silence, or just sit and stare at us with a sad looks. When we are angry, somehow they will act pretty much like when we are sad but in a precautious stance. Sometimes they don’t dare to come near us. Just put such a sad face, and peak from the door while making a mellow “meow” sounds, like they where saying “are you still angry?” or “or you angry at me?”. When ever we are feeling happy, they are also will shows cheerful attitude sometimes even hectic. When they are angry at us, well it’s always obvious. In any other ways, depending on the circumstances, cat always able to shows an excellent emotional quotients judging by their ability to act and react due to the environments. When we care and love them so much, they will do to and also will show us variety of emotions as a respond of our interactions with them.
Different with domesticated dogs, house cats can live in the wild on their own. When we took a house cat and put him/her in the wild, he/she will survive as long as there are smaller animals that they can eat. Domesticated cat can always adapt and hunt for foods although they never live in the wild before. These means that cat can learn these necessary ability in order to survive. These means that cats are intelligent.
Judging by their fur color, we can sometimes see their basic character. White cats are calm, but a bit shyer. Black cats are also calm, but they had more laud personality. White, black, and grey cats are often very devoted to their human mates. Black, grey, or white cats are the serious type. Once they stick to a human mate, they will stick to the end specially when they born in the house and had a human companion since baby. Red cats are more playful, laud, sassy, always do as they please, and often a bit unfaithful. Red cats are often male. Red cats needs more love, caring, and a lot of attentions compare to other cat in order to make them comfortable around us, and never pick another human mate.
Compare to the size of the body, cats has a bigger brain then dogs. And the easiest way to proof that cat is smarter than dog is by their looks. Dog are always have a stupid looks and cat are always had a smarter expression. Besides that, only dogs chase their own tails.
Cats are naturally clean and love to be clean. They gradually cleans their fur with their tongue, and burry their shits after they poops.
Cat can understand their human’s feeling due to their intelligent and the way they see us as friend. When we are feeling sad, they will looks sad and even try to cheers their humans by rubbing their body, sit in our lap with such silence, or just sit and stare at us with a sad looks. When we are angry, somehow they will act pretty much like when we are sad but in a precautious stance. Sometimes they don’t dare to come near us. Just put such a sad face, and peak from the door while making a mellow “meow” sounds, like they where saying “are you still angry?” or “or you angry at me?”. When ever we are feeling happy, they are also will shows cheerful attitude sometimes even hectic. When they are angry at us, well it’s always obvious. In any other ways, depending on the circumstances, cat always able to shows an excellent emotional quotients judging by their ability to act and react due to the environments. When we care and love them so much, they will do to and also will show us variety of emotions as a respond of our interactions with them.
Different with domesticated dogs, house cats can live in the wild on their own. When we took a house cat and put him/her in the wild, he/she will survive as long as there are smaller animals that they can eat. Domesticated cat can always adapt and hunt for foods although they never live in the wild before. These means that cat can learn these necessary ability in order to survive. These means that cats are intelligent.
Judging by their fur color, we can sometimes see their basic character. White cats are calm, but a bit shyer. Black cats are also calm, but they had more laud personality. White, black, and grey cats are often very devoted to their human mates. Black, grey, or white cats are the serious type. Once they stick to a human mate, they will stick to the end specially when they born in the house and had a human companion since baby. Red cats are more playful, laud, sassy, always do as they please, and often a bit unfaithful. Red cats are often male. Red cats needs more love, caring, and a lot of attentions compare to other cat in order to make them comfortable around us, and never pick another human mate.
Philosofy of Human
Out of any religions, dogma, ideology, or any believes, I believe that humans are different compare to animals – while evolutionists, naturalists, and materialist believe that human is part of the animal kingdom. First, our chromosome are completely different with apes (the one that so called to be our relatives) and so far the fact says that chromosome changes can only produce abnormality. Second, if humans are really from apes, there should be plenty variety of fossils that shows the gradation from ape to human. The fact is there aren’t any. There are many other reasons (others than faith and reasons by believes and religions).
Anyways, because humans are in such way then humans are different in their nature. While animals have an instinct as a base of their actions, humans had common sense. Human can choose what kinds of actions and reactions they will do as a respond to the environment. Human can choose whether to be good or evil; to destroy or to maintain; to be greed or not to. “To be or not to be, that is the question” says Shakespeare in Hamlet.
Some times, human can be more than an angel when they fill their lives with such goodness but sometimes human can even worse than animals when they fill their lives with such act of destructions. Only human can sacrifice their lives in order to keep others to live but only human can kill their born child just because shame, to run from responsibility, or any other lame excuses. Animal only kills and take what they can eat but only human (out of materialistic minds and capitalism) that take anything, as much as possible, even kills anyone just because money, power, or sex. Only human can love everything, care of others as much he/she can, as deep as possible, and bring joyful to others as much as possible; and only humans that can care only for himself, live with such hatred till he/she dies, and bring nothing but destructions as he/she walks the surface of earth.
Only humans had souls.
Anyways, because humans are in such way then humans are different in their nature. While animals have an instinct as a base of their actions, humans had common sense. Human can choose what kinds of actions and reactions they will do as a respond to the environment. Human can choose whether to be good or evil; to destroy or to maintain; to be greed or not to. “To be or not to be, that is the question” says Shakespeare in Hamlet.
Some times, human can be more than an angel when they fill their lives with such goodness but sometimes human can even worse than animals when they fill their lives with such act of destructions. Only human can sacrifice their lives in order to keep others to live but only human can kill their born child just because shame, to run from responsibility, or any other lame excuses. Animal only kills and take what they can eat but only human (out of materialistic minds and capitalism) that take anything, as much as possible, even kills anyone just because money, power, or sex. Only human can love everything, care of others as much he/she can, as deep as possible, and bring joyful to others as much as possible; and only humans that can care only for himself, live with such hatred till he/she dies, and bring nothing but destructions as he/she walks the surface of earth.
Only humans had souls.
Spirituality in Sexual Conjugation of Islamic Kamasutra
As I said before, sex in Islamic culture has spiritual value and Islam strictly forbid adultery. In Islamic way of life, sex is must perform with a spirit to satisfy our mates. Men are forbid to pull out their penis before the woman orgasm. Women are also had the same role. Due to the mutual obligation, sex must never be performed in any harsh atmosphere. Men or women must also never force their mates to have sex and it must be done with full love.
As I said before, Islam governs every single aspect in life, including sex. The prophet Muhammad regarding this teach us to perform proper foreplay before doing the main course. In the other hand, anal sex that is common to the Arabian before Islam came has became forbidden in Islamic way of life. This is due to the danger that may happen in having anal sex (because anus is not as clean as vagina).
Before having sex, both man and woman must first pray to Allah, so that the activity they about to do will bring peace to them and the child that will born will be a good child. After praying, follows the foreplay. Some say that the pray is can be done right before the main course. The praying activities it self is can be perform while having foreplay. When both party are ready and fully aroused then the main course can be perform.
Remember that sex is must be perform with spirit of love. Both party must love each other and must never had any intentions to hurt each other by having sex. We humans are different with animals. We are more noble then animals. While they have sex with a pure lust as fuel, we as human must put a meaning in sexual intercourse. Feeling of love and caring in sexual intercourse is a must because the main goal in sex is to satisfy our mate and making the love between husband and wife became deeper so that it can gives a state of peace in our mind and in the end life feels better.
The prophet teaches us to put rhythms in one’s sex life so that it will never be boring. The rhythm in this case is both in bed and out bed. In bed means on the art of making out, and out bed means in the art of treating our mate. One must have fully aware that the person that having sex with is the person in this life that one loved. This body is the tool to express this deep feeling of loving. One must understand this and put it mind before performing sexual intercourse in a more spiritual state.
As I said before, Islam governs every single aspect in life, including sex. The prophet Muhammad regarding this teach us to perform proper foreplay before doing the main course. In the other hand, anal sex that is common to the Arabian before Islam came has became forbidden in Islamic way of life. This is due to the danger that may happen in having anal sex (because anus is not as clean as vagina).
Before having sex, both man and woman must first pray to Allah, so that the activity they about to do will bring peace to them and the child that will born will be a good child. After praying, follows the foreplay. Some say that the pray is can be done right before the main course. The praying activities it self is can be perform while having foreplay. When both party are ready and fully aroused then the main course can be perform.
Remember that sex is must be perform with spirit of love. Both party must love each other and must never had any intentions to hurt each other by having sex. We humans are different with animals. We are more noble then animals. While they have sex with a pure lust as fuel, we as human must put a meaning in sexual intercourse. Feeling of love and caring in sexual intercourse is a must because the main goal in sex is to satisfy our mate and making the love between husband and wife became deeper so that it can gives a state of peace in our mind and in the end life feels better.
The prophet teaches us to put rhythms in one’s sex life so that it will never be boring. The rhythm in this case is both in bed and out bed. In bed means on the art of making out, and out bed means in the art of treating our mate. One must have fully aware that the person that having sex with is the person in this life that one loved. This body is the tool to express this deep feeling of loving. One must understand this and put it mind before performing sexual intercourse in a more spiritual state.
Tuesday, February 2, 2010
Traditional Javanese coffee brewery
Most of Javanese people prefer their coffee plain. Meaning that just coffee, sugar, and water (sometimes without sugar). Therefore, most of them prefer grounded Robusta coffee due to the thick black taste, even though there are few likes Arabica coffee. For some certain circumstances, they use a little amount of milk, or some ginger. Generally that is.
The younger generations knew a new breed of coffee that comes from the side of the world where the sun is set (i.e. instant coffee, espresso, coffee latté, macchiato, cappuccino, mochacino, etc). Although, the old fashion coffee still preferred among Indonesian people. Therefore the traditional coffee shop or coffee house in Indonesia will never be replaced. Although fast-paced coffee service is available, such as at Starbucks, it is still questionable as to what extent such enterprises truly embody the traditional role of coffeehouses in communities as enhancing the local culture a this fact is a global issue. Fast-placed coffee service should consider fusing with local coffee culture in order to gain more costumers and to be able to enhance the local culture.
Speaking of coffee culture, Javanese people had a unique way to brew coffee. First, the selected coffee beans are being fried in a pottering pan without any oils. For best result, the frying process is using wood coals or woods instead of gas or oil fuel. The wood used is also had to be specific. Not just any woods are used. On this process, it is common to use small amounts of rice beans, corn, or small slice of coconut to enrich the flavor. The result it self is varies between these ingredients.
After that the coffee is grounded on a wooden or stone tool called alu or some call it lumpang. Both stone and wood will result different kinds of taste. Afterward, the coffee is ready to serve. When it serves using sugar, there are mainly 3 kinds of sugar that commonly used. First is the white sand sugar. This sugar result the common kinds of taste. Second is the big chunk crystal sugar. These kinds of sugar result a better tasted. Sometimes the white sand result some unpleasant aroma that caused by some chemical ingredient that used to whitening the sugar (I don’t know what it called in English since it is not my native language). The third one is brown sugar that comes from various palm trees. This sugar is said to be the best sugar to use to enjoy java Robusta grounded coffee. It’s even better when the coffee used is the one that being mixed with coconut slice on the process.
The younger generations knew a new breed of coffee that comes from the side of the world where the sun is set (i.e. instant coffee, espresso, coffee latté, macchiato, cappuccino, mochacino, etc). Although, the old fashion coffee still preferred among Indonesian people. Therefore the traditional coffee shop or coffee house in Indonesia will never be replaced. Although fast-paced coffee service is available, such as at Starbucks, it is still questionable as to what extent such enterprises truly embody the traditional role of coffeehouses in communities as enhancing the local culture a this fact is a global issue. Fast-placed coffee service should consider fusing with local coffee culture in order to gain more costumers and to be able to enhance the local culture.
Speaking of coffee culture, Javanese people had a unique way to brew coffee. First, the selected coffee beans are being fried in a pottering pan without any oils. For best result, the frying process is using wood coals or woods instead of gas or oil fuel. The wood used is also had to be specific. Not just any woods are used. On this process, it is common to use small amounts of rice beans, corn, or small slice of coconut to enrich the flavor. The result it self is varies between these ingredients.
After that the coffee is grounded on a wooden or stone tool called alu or some call it lumpang. Both stone and wood will result different kinds of taste. Afterward, the coffee is ready to serve. When it serves using sugar, there are mainly 3 kinds of sugar that commonly used. First is the white sand sugar. This sugar result the common kinds of taste. Second is the big chunk crystal sugar. These kinds of sugar result a better tasted. Sometimes the white sand result some unpleasant aroma that caused by some chemical ingredient that used to whitening the sugar (I don’t know what it called in English since it is not my native language). The third one is brown sugar that comes from various palm trees. This sugar is said to be the best sugar to use to enjoy java Robusta grounded coffee. It’s even better when the coffee used is the one that being mixed with coconut slice on the process.
The Islamic Kamasutra
CAUTION!
As the host of this Blog, I must inform that I do not believe and do not support sex before marriage. Thus, this hot coffee sections is for whom are married, or soon about to get married, and for thou whom under the legal age, or have not married, please leave this site immediately. For the Qur’an and Bible has forbid us to commit adultery. The information provides in this site is for thou who is married and thou that is about to married. Please comply, or the consequences are yours to be taken.
Preface
For some unknown reason, the word “hot coffee” is some how being affiliate to sex. This article may not have anything to do with coffee, but some how the phrase “coffee talk” some how associate with some chat forums that in one or many occasions talk also about sex (since I am originate from Indonesia, I’m not so familiar with that phrase). I guess coffee talk it self is one of the products of coffee culture and this part is where the coffee speaks. J
I am a Muslim since I was born into this world. Therefore I would like to introduce to the world a part of Islamic culture that not much known this lately. Coffee and tea itself, with its culture that follows has collaborates with Islamic culture. Thus, coffee talk itself has its own face in Islamic culture since true Muslims don’t drink alcohol.
And speaking of the part of Islamic culture that not much known this lately (even by many Muslims) there is something about sexual intercourse in the Islamic culture. True Muslim considers it as something that is so sacred that it is strictly forbidden to perform outside marriage. Sexual intercourse itself is considered to have a spiritual value.
For some of us, we might already familiar with the Kamasutra that being written in the early time of Hindu civilization by Vatsyayana, but little that known the Arabic Kamasutra.
Islam governs all kinds of human activities, to the smallest details. From the time we open our eyes in the morning, till we close our eyes in the night. From the time we have born in this world, until our body being put back to become one again with the earth. Not to mentions in sexual intercourse. For the Muslims, sexual intercourse is a sacred thing. It is a form of devotions to one’s love, and one’s God. Thus, sex is must be done under marriage.
There are some classic literatures from the early Islamic civilization. There is Hada iq al-Mut’ah; Funun al-Jins ‘Inda al ‘Arab by Muhammad Al-Baz. And then there is another literature written by Al Imam Jalaluddin Al Suyuti, from Maroko.
The Islamic Kamasutra not only speaks mainly about how to conjugate, but also how to treat your love one in respect. But here I will only provide the info about the “conjugations” part that taken from the book by Muhammad Al Baz, with some of my own knowledge, and some that taken from Hindi Kamasutra written by Vatsyayana. Plus, there are some tips about things that might help you gain more satisfaction in you sexual intercourse. Include some tips about how to enhance your “gun” according to the Arabic traditional ways to improve the size and power of the gun. Also some little trick that can be done by women to achieve orgasm easily, and massively. You can also consult through this site about one’s sexual and marital problems. You can also consult via E-Mail through jalesveva_2005@yahoo.com or arudatu@yahoo.com. Questions can be written in English or Indonesian.
The Spiritual Conjugation
In Hindi Culture, maybe it’s the one that called “Tantric Sex”, is the kind of sexual conjugation with such a deep and thick atmosphere of love. The Spiritual Conjugation is heaving sex with full feeling of intense love to your partner.
In Islamic culture, we humans have different ways of doing everything compare to the animals, or any kinds of God’s creations. If animals have sex with such lust only, we human have sex with such art and is another form of devotion to God.
It may sounds like some dark ritual of some satanic sect, but it isn’t. You see in Islam, we commanded by God to make our wives and husbands happy. One of the ways of doing it is by sex. Happiness and peace in marriage is the key of having the best life you could have, and in Islam, there is no other way to reach those but to always keep Allah in mind, where ever we go, what ever we do – including when we have sex with our partner.
“Those who believe (in the Oneness of Allâh - Islâmic Monotheism), and whose hearts find rest in the remembrance of Allâh, Verily, in the remembrance of Allâh do hearts find rest.” (Quran, Surah 18, Verse 28)
“And among His Signs is this, that He created for you wives from among yourselves, that you may find repose in them, and He has put between you affection and mercy. Verily, in that are indeed signs for a people who reflect.” (Quran Surah 30, verse 21)
God creates mankind in pairs (man and woman) so that we can feel repose to each other. And sex is one of the mechanisms to reach that peace state. But moreover, to reach that repose with our partner, we must being able to satisfied our partner in sexual conjugation. The prophet Muhammad even forbid men to pull their penis before their wife reach climax, even if the husband had orgasm first.
Thus, in the civilizations after Rasulullah Muhammad, there are Al Imam Jalaluddin Al Suyuti, from Morocco and Muhammad Al-Baz who wrote literatures similar with Kamasutra – but from the prespective of Islam.
How to Manage Orgasm (mostly for men)
It is the nature of men to easily get sexually aroused, and get orgasm quicker than women. Thus, men must find a way to manage his urge for orgasm – regarding to the prophet says about sexual conjugation.
The key of this is to know when to relax, and when to hold. To hold here is to contract the pelvic muscles, it is similar like when you hold the urge to urinate. When you are pumping your self against your partner, at some point you will feel that urge to orgasm. And while you are pumping, you must hold. When that urge becomes closer, what you must do is to decrease the intensity of your move, slowing down the rhythm, or even pauses for awhile to let that urge subside – when the urge is too great.
While you are slowing down, you can hold and hug your partner closely and tightly. You can do this while pumping slowly, or just pause to pump and kisses her all around from head to wherever area you wanted. When the urge subsides, continue to pump again, and move. By doing this, you will make your partner feels like she is the most beautiful woman in the universe. This way you can over flowed her heart with love
When you are pumping slowly, you can thrust your penis as deep as you can. Women love when there is “something” slightly touching their womb – but some women find this irritating. This technique is best being done when you are in the urge to blown up, because your penis is in the top shape at this stage. This way you can satisfied your women nicely while subsiding the urge for orgasm. Some women even can reach a small orgasm when their womb is being “kissed” by penis.
And then, when you feel your penis become limp, you can pump with such a narrow penetration and in a high intensity or in other word, do it with a fast move. This way you will awaken “your power” again. When your penis is better erected, you can move your hip and thrust it a bit deeper. To make it easy to remember, let just put it this way; the harder you get, the deeper you can thrust with a slower move, vice versa. One thing that very important is, when you thrust it deeply, it is may be best if you didn’t do it too fast. It is because the womb is a very sensitive area. So sensitive that it is irritating to touched, or even hurts when it being slam by the head of your penis too violently or if you move too fast. In some case, when the vagina is narrow and small, there’s even a bleeding occur.
A lot of men didn’t realize how the penis and the vagina anatomy are, and how is the best way of using them. The men’s penis had a sensitive are around the head, and vagina had is loose on the inside, but extra sensitive around the womb. Thus, when the penis is fully erected in the edge of orgasm, it is best to move more deep inside the vagina. This way the urge for orgasm can subsides, while giving our partner a pleasure.
Vice versa with the condition when the penis is getting flaccid you can get it to harden again by moving it shallowly around the outer part of the vagina. It is because the penis had the sensitive area around the head, and the women had tighter area around the outer area.
And then when your penis becomes harder, it is best to move a bit deeper to touch the G-Spot of women vagina. At this rate, whether you decide to move fast or slowly, it’s totally up to you. Whatever your choice would be, it is best to keep your move in rhythm. And above all, the most important thing is to keep a good communication and make your woman feel safe and filled her with love when having sex.
Other thing that matters when heaving sex is how we use our mind. When you think of others then sex while doing it, then the sexual intercourse would be less enjoyable. But if you become obsessed, and think nothing but sex, you will do it with such lust then the sexual intercourse will end before its time. It will over before you can satisfy your women. What you must keep in mind is that sexual intercourse is an “intercourse” or another form of communications. This means that both parties must feel the same pleasure. Otherwise, either men or women will feel tortured by it.
Sexual conjugation is must be pleasurable for both you and your women. Thus what you must keep in mind is that you must satisfy your women before you satisfy your own desire. And that is how a Muslim must treat a woman.
How to Reach Orgasm (mostly for women)
On men, it’s more to control when it’s regarding of how to reach an orgasm. In women, it’s more to how you can relax when having sex, without any other thoughts while enjoying a penis inside your vagina. In many case, it is the men’s fault when a woman can’t reach orgasm. But sometimes, when the problem is on the women’s sides, the problem is usually because you are too tense.
You have to learn how to enjoy sexual intercourse. In this case, if the problem is complex, it is better to do it in pairs with your man. Frigidity is a very complex matter but it is mainly a matter of mind controls. Relaxations can help you to achieve the ability to reach orgasm. And because of the complexity, I will put this matter of discussion into a different chapter.
Women’s body is different with men. Although the muscles is similar, It’s chemistry in sexual matter is different to men. But there is a technique that can help women to achieve a greater orgasm, and how to make sex feels even more pleasurable. The key to gain a great orgasm is not so different with men’s, which is to hold. But when you want to have a multiple orgasm, then the key is in relaxations.
Women are slow to react to sexual stimulations. There for women needs foreplay. Thus, in order to be orgasmic, a woman needs a hot foreplay. Once a man understands this, then his women will fall into a deep hole of sexual pleasure. Then, when a women’s vagina is soaked in a vaginal fluid, then it means she is ready to being stab with a penis.
And then, when a sexual intercourse took place, in order to have a better pleasure, you can hold his penis with your vagina. You can tighten your vagina by squeezing it like when you are holding an urge to urinate. When you do this along while playing, you will have such a massive and long orgasm. This is the kind of orgasm that makes you fly, and the kind of orgasm that makes you want to hug your partner so close. For some man, it also very amusing to watch his woman having this kind of orgasm.
How to have a tighter vagina, a harder penis, and how to boost your libido
There is an exercise to boost up your performance in a sexual intercourse. This exercise is to train your pelvic diaphragm and the inner muscles of your sexual organs – i.e. the inner vagina and the muscle where your penis’s based. It is a group of muscles located in the base of your pelvis. When these muscles are well trained, you will get a harder erection, and a tighter vagina. This exercise will return your pelvic diaphragm to its previous conditions when you are virgin.
An ability to contract these muscles will leads you to a greater orgasm. If you are a man, this is the kind of practice that will drain all of your sperm from it sack, make you having such an explosive orgasm. If you are a woman, this is the kind of practice that will make your vagina tights again as a virgin, and make it more sensitive to pleasure and will leads you to a long and very pleasurable orgasm. Moreover, this is the kinds of practice that will make you love each other more.
How to do it is very simple and what I’m about to reveal here is an exercise for pelvic diaphragm combine with breathing technique that similar to tai chi and yoga.
- Pelvic diaphragm training.
First, do some stretching around the stomach, waist, back, and thighs. Especially on base of your thighs and lower stomach, put some extra attention on these area. Then, what you must do is simply contracting your muscles of the base of your pelvic. How to do this is just the same as holding an urge to pee.
For start, do this holding move as much as you can in two minutes. It is like doing a clap but it isn’t your hand. It’s your butt and vagina. Then have it rest a while, but not more then one minute, and do it again, repeat it three times
Second move is to hold, pushing these muscles together as hard as you can, as long as you can. Then rest for awhile, less then a minute, and repeat it 10 times. You might feel hot after doing these, especially between your legs. You might even feel sexually aroused. But it’s best to just rest for a while.
Do this training as much as you want. But be careful, if you do this too much, you might get such an erection that feels hurt when it isn’t being channeled as soon as possible. You can also vary the positions while doing this. You can sit, while watching TV, or standing, walking, running, riding, or even while lying down or crawling like when you had a doggie stand.
Another thing that important is to control the rhythm of your breath. It is just like in a usual exercise like when you work out.
- Chakra / Chi awakening.
This exercise more like yoga or tai chi exercise. This exercise combines the first exercise with more advance breathing techniques. I call this the chakra awakening.
The heat you feel after the first exercise is one that called chi in Japanese and Chinese martial arts or chakra in the Hindi tradition. This exercise’s purpose is to enhance this chi to become bigger, and spreads it from the pelvic to around the waist, stomach, and lower back – which is the main area we use to move a lot while having sex.
How to do it;
1. Take a seat position like when you are meditating.
2. Relax your self and straighten your back.
3. Take a deep breath while contracting the pelvic diaphragm. Imagine there is a hot ball formed in your pelvic, and while you take a deep breath, it moves slowly up ward towards your belly.
4. When your breath reaches its limit, imagine that ball stops in your belly. Then contracted your stomach, as you where pushing this ball downward and in the same time your pelvic – still contracting – pushes it upward to your belly.
5. Hold this position as long as you can. If you can, you can do it while breathing shallowly. When you inhale, the ball move slightly upward and downward while exhaling.
6. Imagine the ball gets bigger as you hold this ball longer and push it harder. You will feel that same heat you feel before trough your pelvis and whole stomach.
7. After awhile, release it slowly and as you release, imagine that ball is getting even bigger and spreads slowly through your body.
8. Relax your self for a while, about 10 to 20 seconds then repeat.
Do this training once or twice a day. Do it as long as you can, vary from 10 minutes, 20 minutes, or even an hour. If you already familiar with the steps, you can even do this while standing, walking, sitting on a chair in front of the TV, or even while lying down.
This exercise goal is to train the abdomen, burn some fat – without even moving your body – strengthen your abdomen, waist, back, and pelvic. These exercises also strengthen your inner organs, and stimulate them to release some hormones that will boost up your libido.
- Other training that might help.
Other things that will help you improve your stamina are your abs. If you had a tight abs, you will have a good stamina in having sex. Great sex comes from great abs. A six-pack abs is sexy and makes your penis looks longer. It looks good, and taste good. So guys, start to do those sit ups.
Monday, February 1, 2010
traditional Indonesian coffee shop
It is said that Robusta coffee beans are known after the Colonial from Europe arrived at Java. Thus, Java are quiet famous with its coffee. And it is well known that coffee is not just goods, but its cultural goods. There are cultures that follow coffee drinkers all around the globe include Indonesia.
Indonesia as one of the oldest coffee source had its own unique coffee cultures. Warung kopi or literary translated as coffee shop is well known though out Indonesia. Indonesia that consist very wide of cultures variety had these kinds of coffee shops in every single culture.
This kind of coffee shops usually serves coffee, traditional snacks, and some times some breakfast menus. But the looks and atmospheres are totally different. It’s totally gives an exotic view of Indonesian culture. The pricing are also very-very low. The unique thing about these coffee shops is that, often some business deals happen in these coffee shops. Many traditional entrepreneurs had their office here. They do marketing, selling products, or even giving some services at these coffee shops.
These days coffee shops are even more creative. Even though their looks are very traditional, but some even offer free internet services. And even though starbucks and other big coffee franchise company are keeps growing through out the country, these coffee shops will never dies since those companies never can reach the middle to the low economy class which is the majority here in Indonesia. Of how that’s possible, it’s due to the price and mainly to coffee they offers. The prices are way too high for them, and these people (the majority of Indonesian) prefer a whole different taste of coffee compare to the coffee these companies had to offer. These coffee geeks really know the best coffee. They really had a very high standard when it comes to coffee taste. The big coffee companies in Indonesia are always ask advises from these coffee geeks.
cak Put's coffee shop in Gresik, East Java, Indonesia
Chocolate to boost libido (for women)
Previously I wrote an article about how coffee with some mix can give men an extra kick. It’s kind of unfair if there aren’t any articles of how to make an aphrodisiac for women with caffeine based beverages. Besides coffee and tea, chocolate is also contain caffeine although it’s not as high as coffee.
It is well known that women body is different with men in shape and hormonal functions. That’s why women have boobs, vagina, higher voices, etc. And it is also well known that hormone is the trigger of almost every kind of activities in our body, especially in this case, sexual activities. When testosterone is the basic ingredient in sperm production (and libido rejuvenations) then in women the hormones are different, and fortunately chocolate have just the right property for women.
It is well known that women body is different with men in shape and hormonal functions. That’s why women have boobs, vagina, higher voices, etc. And it is also well known that hormone is the trigger of almost every kind of activities in our body, especially in this case, sexual activities. When testosterone is the basic ingredient in sperm production (and libido rejuvenations) then in women the hormones are different, and fortunately chocolate have just the right property for women.
In the previous article, the ingredients are coffee, honey, raw egg, ginger, and ginseng. This time, it’s simply just replaced the coffee with chocolate powder, and replaces the egg with milk and cinnamon. So the recipe would be chocolate powder, honey, ginger, milk, and cinnamon. There are some exotic spices that can give an extra kick, but I’m afraid its can only be found in Indonesia. For exchange, you can add up some chunks of avocado.
the recipe is at http://detuvarecipes.blogspot.com/2010/02/cfbs-coffeechocolate-for-better-sex_01.html
Coffee to boost libido (for men)
Coffee may not have any aphrodisiac properties. But coffee had the essential property to support an aphrodisiac purpose. We just need to ad some other ingredient that had the wanted aphrodisiac property. But still, everything is best if consumes in moderate amount.
As we all know, coffee and tea is a cultural goods. There are cultures that follow these goods. People use coffee and tea to make friends, communicate, or make such atmosphere that suitable for any kinds of social activities.
Indonesia had a unique coffee culture. While in the west people uses cream, caramel, and milk to as additional ingredients, the people of Indonesia uses different kinds of additional ingredients. They use wide range of spices as additional ingredient from clove, ginger, cinnamon, raw egg, honey, even ginseng and rum. These days, there are even more.
In the “sex life” sides of coffee culture, before brewing we must first understand the nature of coffee. Caffeine in coffee is the essential ingredient to support an aphrodisiac purpose. Its caffeine that makes us feels frisky after consuming coffee. It gives us the rejuvenations sensation after drink coffee. In this case, coffee increase the adrenaline in our blood that makes our heart beats faster. Meaning that there is more blood is pumped through our body, including to our penis. We need just a little more kick to make it stand still with an extra tension.
The ingredients needed are ginger, raw egg, ginseng, and honey. Mixtures between these with some coffee are already well known among men in Java. Well known of their aphrodisiac purpose of course. Some times it’s even mixed with rum and wild horse milk for an extra kick.
As we all know, coffee and tea is a cultural goods. There are cultures that follow these goods. People use coffee and tea to make friends, communicate, or make such atmosphere that suitable for any kinds of social activities.
Indonesia had a unique coffee culture. While in the west people uses cream, caramel, and milk to as additional ingredients, the people of Indonesia uses different kinds of additional ingredients. They use wide range of spices as additional ingredient from clove, ginger, cinnamon, raw egg, honey, even ginseng and rum. These days, there are even more.
In the “sex life” sides of coffee culture, before brewing we must first understand the nature of coffee. Caffeine in coffee is the essential ingredient to support an aphrodisiac purpose. Its caffeine that makes us feels frisky after consuming coffee. It gives us the rejuvenations sensation after drink coffee. In this case, coffee increase the adrenaline in our blood that makes our heart beats faster. Meaning that there is more blood is pumped through our body, including to our penis. We need just a little more kick to make it stand still with an extra tension.
The ingredients needed are ginger, raw egg, ginseng, and honey. Mixtures between these with some coffee are already well known among men in Java. Well known of their aphrodisiac purpose of course. Some times it’s even mixed with rum and wild horse milk for an extra kick.
Ginger had the property to make our blood veins widening. Include the one at our penis. Ginseng and honey will gives extra energy and stamina as back up when we copulate. As for the raw egg together with honey, is for the fuel to produce more testosterone and in the end, more sperms. The egg will eventually get cooked when it mixed with hot water. The taste of honey it self will neutralize the bad feeling of half cooked egg. About the taste, it’s not bad.
for the recipe, you can visit http://detuvarecipes.blogspot.com/2010/02/cfbs-coffeechocolate-for-better-sex_01.html
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